Posted by: Karen (Betty Bear) | March 10, 2015

Absence of Joy

Before I get to the joy bit, I just got home from dropping the boy at scouts and the fog, from the snow-covered ground, warmer air and rain, looks just like the special effects in a horror movie. I kept waiting for the zombies to jump on the car.

So, referring back to the post on the TED talk by Andrew Solomon, he said depression is the absence of vitality. It also is, at least for me, the absence of joy. I can feel happiness, although it feels a little distant, but joy, that deep, all-encompassing feeling, that is missing. Add that to the list of things I miss. On Sunday, I was listening to the sermon our pastor (the one I like, not the douchewaffle) was preaching and she was talking about the presence of God being the feeling of joy, that if we were feeling joy we were feeling God. I’m not entirely sure I agree, but I do feel that when I feel joy, I feel that deep connection to the universe. I’d really like to get that back. It’s not a sustainable emotion, but it is one that repeats.

Recent happy things – really good curry last night, the swooping Cooper’s hawk that keeps coming by, the warmer weather which has helped me get out and walk two days in a row, a picture of my girl child looking oh so happy with a group of her friends, and a good book – Dreaming Spies by Laurie R. King.

If anyone has a really funny video, send me a link, I’d like something to really laugh at.



  1. well, you can always search for “babies laughing” on youtube. Those always get me giggling even when I’m grumpily trying not to. I was trying to find a movie we could all watch a couple of months ago and did a search for “funniest movies of all time” and there are a surprising number of lists out there. The problem is that my sense of humor doesn’t really match up with what is considered to be funny these days, so there weren’t really many that I wanted to see, but the most common ones on all the lists were: Blazing Saddles, Caddyshack, Airplane, Holy Grail, Animal House, etc etc. I would also add Galaxy Quest and Spaceballs. (May the schwarz be with you.) That’s probably not exactly what you meant when you asked for funny videos but I’m pathologically doomed to try to be helpful.

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